Islam is a complete way of life, implying a total submission to Allah. Woman and men are equal and accountable before Allah. Islam regards man and woman as two components of humanity, one completing the other. Woman is half of humanity and man is the other half. They  equally  receive  their  rewards  in the hereafter for  their  faith  and  good  deeds  Marriage  is  strongly  encouraged  and  is both a legal agreement and  a  sacred bond. Islam sees  every  woman, married or unmarried as an individual in her own right like man, she has the same rights to on property , earn wealth and spend it. Her wealth does not become the property of her husband after marriage or divorce.  A woman has the right to choose whom she marries and when married, does not change her last name, out of respect for her lineage.

A woman can seek divorce if her marriage does not work out. Economically, each man and women is an independent legal entity. Men women have the right to own their individual property, engage in business and inherit form others. Both have the equal rights to receive an education and to enter into gainful employment, as long as Islamic principles are not violated.

Seeking knowledge is the obligation of every Muslim. The type of knowledge that is the most emphasized is religious knowledge, it is also required within a society to have professionals of both genders available for the benefit of the public. For example, society requires doctors, teachers, counselors, social workers, and many others important vocations. When there is a shortage of qualified personnel, it may become obligatory for women or men to gain expertise in this fields to fulfill the needs of the Muslim community. In this situation, the guidelines of Islam are to be upheld. 

Women are encouraged to seek Islamic knowledge, pursue their academic endeavors within the to framework of Islam and strive fulfill their intellectual curiosity. To prevent anyone from getting an education is contrary to the teachings of Islam.

A man is responsible for maintaining and protecting his family and providing the basic needs such as food, clothing, and shelter for his wife, children and (if needed ) other female relatives in the household. Married or not, women are not primarily responsible to Mohammad said that the most perfect in faith among believers is he who is best in manners to wife.  

Women Rights in Islam Islam has an extensive tradition of protecting the civil liberties of women based on the guidelines set forth by Allah and His Prophet. Women are empowered with many rights and protections under Islamic law and are honored with a dignified stature in society.

1. The rights to life. 

2. The right and duty to obtain education.

3. The right to keep all her own money.

4. The right to own property independently.

5. Equality of reward from Allah for equal deeds.

6. The right to express their opinion and to be heard.

7. Equal right to choose a spouse –The right to negotiate marriage terms of her choice.  And the right to refuse any marriage that does not please them.

8. The right to provisions from the husband for all her needs and more.

9. The right to get sexual satisfaction from her husband.  And to get love and mercy in Spousal relations.

10. The right to obtain from her husband, even on the grounds that she “simply can’t stand him”

11. The right to custody of their children after divorce.

12. The right to go to the mosque.

13. The right to have the lofty positions of Mothers.

14. The right to enjoy all Human Rights and Civil Rights.

Women in Islam, From the earliest days of Islam to contemporary times today, Muslim women have been and continue to be active leaders in their communities and countries across the world. This directory is a growing archive of leading Muslim women scholars, activists, writers, politicians, artists, religious and spiritual leaders, civil society leaders and more.

Prophet Muhammad said: "The most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best in manners and kindest to his wife."  [Abu Dawud]

Hajib a worn to identify you, who you are and what type women you are. This is not only covers the head and chest, it actually cover a Muslim women character.

Hijab isn’t just what you’re wearing but it’s also what you do and say it’s who you are. Hijab does not cover up a woman’s weakness. Rather, it displays her strength, commitment and confidence which is built out of love for ALLAH. HIJAB includes the way a person walks, talks, looks and thinks. All of it should be done modestly and applies to both men and women. Islam promotes modesty and seeks to minimize vice and immorality in society. One of the ways it does so it by requiring modest dress. 

Islam sets the standards of decency for both men and women. In most Western countries there are laws defining what is decent. This usually amounts to the male having to cover his genitals and her breasts. If this minimum reequipment is not met, the most of a person can be charged with is indecent exposure. The reason cited for the difference in required clothing between men and women in this matter is the different in their anatomies.

Islam prescribes a more conservative moral code and dress code for both men and women. In Islam, men and women asked to lower their gaze in public place and they are also expected to dress in loose and unrevealing clothing from his navel of his knee. This is the absolute minimum covering required. He must never, for example, go out in public wearing a short bathing suit. When leaving the home, A Muslim women must at least cover her hair and body in loose and unrevealing clothing, obscuring the details of her body from the public.

The wisdom behind his dress code is to minimize sexual enticement and degradation in society as possible for both men and women. Obeying this dress code is a form of obedience of Allah. Islam forbids any sex appeal and physical allurement outside of marriage. In contrast, Islam encourages sex appeal and physical attraction for both men and women within the privacy between married couples.

Most often, it is worn by Muslim women as a symbol of modesty and privacy. In recent times, wearing hijab in public has been required by law in Iran, Saudi Arabia and the Indonesian province of Aceh. Other countries have passed laws banning some or all types of hijab in public or in certain types of locales. Some Western observers have assumed that the head covering of a woman is meant to show her inferiority to men. This could not be further from the trust. In Islam, a woman who dresses this way commands respect, and through her modesty, she rejects sexual servitude. The message that the woman gives when she wears Islamic dress in Society is “Respect me for who I am. I am not a sex object.” Islam Reaches that the consequences of immodesty fall not only on the individual but also upon the society that permits women and men to mingle freely, display themselves and compete or allure once another through sexual attraction. These consequences are significant and cannot be ignored. To turn women into sex objects for the pleasure of men is not liberation.

In fact. It is a dehumanizing form of oppression rejected by Islam. The liberation of the Muslim woman is that she is recognized by the content of her character rather than by the display of her physical attributes. From the Islamic point of view, “liberated” Western women-who must often worry about her looks, figure and youth for the pleasure of others-are trapped in a form of slavery.

“O Prophet! Tell thy wives are thy daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks close round. That will be better, that so that may be recognized and not annoyed. Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful” [Sura Al Ahzab 33:59]

Hijab For Women

According the Qur’an and Sunnah there are basically sis criteria for observing Hajib ::

1. Extent: The first criterion is the extent of the body that should be covered. This is different for and women. For Women, it is obligatory to cover the complete body except the face and the hands up to the wrists. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. All the remaining five criteria below are same for women.

a. The Clothes worn should be loose and should not reveal the figure.

b. The clothes worn should not be transparent or translucent such that one can see through them.

c. The clothes worn should not be too glamorous to attract the opposite sex.

d. The clothes worn should not resemble that of the opposite sex.

e. The clothes worn should not resemble that of the unbelievers i.r. they should not wear clothes that are specifically identities or symbols of the unbelievers’ religions.

Complete Hijab, besides the six criteria of clothing, also includes the moral conduct, behavior, attitude and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of “Hijab” of the clothes is observing ‘hijab’ in a limited sense. ‘Hijab’ of the clothes should be accompanied by ‘Hijab’ of the eyes, ‘Hijab’ of the heart, ‘Hijab’ of thought and ‘Hijab’ of intention. It also includes the way a person walks, the way a person talks, the way he behaves etc.

The reason why Hijab is prescribes for women is mentioned in the Qur’an in the following verse of Sur Al Ahzab: “O Prophet! Tell thy wives are thy daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks close round. That will be better, that so that may be recognized and not annoyed. Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful” [Sura Al Ahzab 33:59]

The Qur’an says that Hijab has been prescribed for the women so that they are recognized as modest women and this will also prevent them from being molested. 

Is Dating allowed in Islam? The only answer is, NO. Islam does not allow any illicit relationship between a man and a woman. Having a girlfriend or a boyfriend, or any type of relationship before marriage is not allowed. It is Haram. 

Dating, in its modern sense, almost always involves the channeling of sexual Just for the opposite sex by caressing, kissing, or even having sex. These things are strictly forbidden in Islam before marriage. If it is love between a man and a woman, the emotion itself is not the subject of questioning on the Day of Judgment. 

If you feel you love someone, then you cannot control your feeling. If that love prompts you to try to see that person in secret and to give expression to your feelings in actions permissible only within the bond of marriage then what you are doing is forbidden. Dating is just about meeting a special someone and that meeting may or may not result in marriage. With Muslim dating, the meetings have one goal: marriage.Thus, for Muslim dating to be halal, both partners have to date with the sole goal of marriage.

Islam teaches us to be truthful and realistic. Usually, we love for the sake of Allah and we hate for the sake of Allah. Islam teaches us that a male and female can build up a good relationship founded on marriage. Marriages that are usually good and lasting marriages are those that start at the least affection. That affection grows after marriage and maybe it will grow until the couples continue their companionship at the Jannah.

What's and Why So Bad About Relationshionship before marrige? Young Girls and boys must realise that fornication (sex outside marriage) is one of the worst sins for a Muslim. The Prophet of Allah has said "The greatest sin after polytheism (shirk) is the man who commits fornication with a woman who is not his legal wife" (Ibn Kathir, Mishkat). 

In fact it is so serious that the greatest of gifts, which is Imaan/faith, is removed from the fornicator until the evil act is finished. The Prophet of Allah said "Faith comes out of a person whilst he commits fornication" (Mishkat). It has also been stated in another hadith related by Imam Tirmidhi, 

Abu Dawood and Baihaqi that the Messenger of Allah said “When a servant in Allah engages in fornication, his faith leaves him, for it is like a piece of cloth covering his head (and is removed) and when he finishes his sin, his faith returns”. 

Another point to take in to account is when young men and women look for a suitable partner, even if they were themselves involved in such acts, they will want a partner who was pious and had protected their chastity, hence, modesty and Shamefulness is a part of Imaan as advised to us by our beloved Prophet.(Bukhari)

To conclude: -

Mixing freely with the opposite sex (non-mahram) without necessity is not allowed in Islam. Having a boy/girlfriend is totally haram. We need to understand what relationships are allowed and what are not.  

It is very clear that Quran forbids intercourse between man and woman before marriage. In Quran Allah says: مَن لَّمْ يَسْتَطِعْ مِنكُمْ طَوْلًا أَن يَنكِحَ الْمُحْصَنَاتِ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ فَمِن مَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُم مِّن فَتَيَاتِكُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ۚ وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَانِكُم ۚ بَعْضُكُم مِّن بَعْضٍ

 ۚ فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ ۚ فَإِذَا أُحْصِنَّ فَإِنْ أَتَيْنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ فَعَلَيْهِنَّ نِصْفُ مَا عَلَى الْمُحْصَنَاتِ مِنَ الْعَذَابِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِيَ الْعَنَتَ مِنكُمْ ۚ وَأَن تَصْبِرُوا خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

And whoever among you cannot [find] the means to marry free, believing women, then [he may marry] from those whom your right hands possess of believing slave girls. 

And Allah is most knowing about your faith. You [believers] are of one another. So marry them with the permission of their people and give them their due compensation according to what is acceptable. [They should be] chaste, neither [of] those who commit unlawful intercourse randomly nor those who take [secret] lovers. But once they are sheltered in marriage, if they should commit adultery, then for them is half the punishment for free [unmarried] women. This [allowance] is for him among you who fears sin, but to be patient is better for you. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. [An-Nisa: 25]

Moreover,  if you've accepted that "you must lower your gaze", then you should know that it's almost impossible to have such a relationship with a girl.

Islam is a complete provision of life. In Islam marriage is also important as Salat and Siam. In this way it’s our duty to obey the rule of Islam for every momin Muslim. Today, we just try to contain our identity as Muslim, but in marriage we don’t follow the rule of Islam ever we do many anti-Islamic action. It’s undesirable. We have to conscious of our marriage that we may follow the rule of Islam in marriage with the law of Saria

What is Marriage 

Marriage is a means of benefiting from each other and to build ideal family and safe society to be married to each other in the Islamic rituals. By this defilation we can imager that what is purpose of marriage in Islam not only pleasure rather its connected with the processes of making of an ideal family and enlighten society.

Important of Marriage

Marriage is an admitted work of Sariah. For every capable man it is very important. It’s also a surah of prophet (PBUH) Allah says – “We have sent forth other Rasools before you and given them wives and children” [Surah Ar-Ra’d, Ayah no. 38]

Rassulullah (PBUH) also married and also inspired his ummat for marriage. Rassullullah says "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." (Sohi Bukhari hadis no. Volume 7, Book 62, Number 4]. For this reason Islamic scholars says, if you marriage eagerly it will be better than any kind of extra prayer, Because, it help us to grow many kind of magnificent quality and performed many indescribable benefit. Sometimes it’s became so necessary. Example if anyone don’t marriage it’s must be possible for him to doing Jinah, So of you want the blessing of Allah and relief from Harm you will have to marriage.

Marriage in islam also maintain a very important thing, that is MAHRAM. In MAHRAM men and women all other types of relations or people are regarded as non MAHRAM hence marriage is allowable with them and therefore individual contact is not permissible unless it is open and necessary or the person is beyond marriageable age.

In MAHRAM men who you are not allowed to marry : -

@ Mother

@ Grandmothers (paternal or maternal) and on up

@ Daughters

@ Daughters of his children, children’s children and on down.

@ Sisters

@ Daughters of brothers or sisters, their children’s daughters, and on down

@ Mother’s sisters, grandmothers sisters and on up

@ Father’s sisters and father’s fathers sisters and on up

@ Wife’s mother, Wife’s grandmother

@ The wives of his father, father’s father and on up

@ The wives of his children, children’s children and on down.

All the mentioned relatives are unlawful to be married. However, the first lot are due to blood relationships and hence it would be incest. The last four are unlawful due to the fact of his marriage, i.e., wife’s mother (she was lawful but became unlawful when he married his wife) and this is what this means and will now remain unlawful for him even if he was to divorce his wife. The same applies with the other three. Also, all of his wet nurse mother’s kin made un-marriageable to him due to being breast fed by his milk mother.

It is also unlawful for a man to marry both of these together (whilst being married to the other):

@ A woman and her sister

@ A woman and her father’s sister

@ A woman and her mother’s sister

@ He may marry the other if he was to divorce (or by death) the first partner.

For a woman

@ Father, grandfather and on up

@ Son, son’s son, daughter’s son and on down

@ Brother

@ Father’s brother, meaning the brother of any male ancestor

@ Mother’s brother, meaning the brother of any female ancestor

@ Brother’s son, sister’s son, or any other descendant of brothers or sisters

@ The husband of her mother, grandmother and on up

@ The husband of her daughter or other female descendant

@ Her husband’s father, grandfather and on up, and the husband’s son and descendant’s

Also, all of her wet nurse mother’s kin made un-marriageable to him her to being breast fed by her milk mother.

-: Marriage Proposal and It’s Rules:-

If anyone want to marriage a girl it’s his responsibility that his first talk to the girl parents that which will help her to make a necessary steps for the next for this there have some rules in Islam.

1. Take Permission of the other party :

Get the consent of the other party for marriage, it is necessary to know the consent of the other side on accept their consent. This is the first step in the weeding. Through this, it is possible to get informed about the other party’s consent to the marriage.

2. Make the brochures:

Marriage is an important issue is the live of Muslim men and women. Therefore when they decide to make a marriage decision their duty is to pray Istikhara for the help of taking a good direction on doing it or not doing it with Allah.   About Istikhara Narrated Jabir bin `Abdullah Says:

The Prophet (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) used to teach us the way of doing Istikhara (Istikhara means to ask Allah to guide one to the right sort of action concerning any job or a deed), in all matters as he taught us the Suras of the Qur'an. He said, "If anyone of you thinks of doing any job he should offer a two rak`at prayer other than the compulsory ones and say (after the prayer): -- 'Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi'ilmika, Wa astaqdiruka bi-qudratika, Wa as'alaka min fadlika Al-`azlm Fa-innaka taqdiru Wala aqdiru, Wa ta'lamu Wala a'lamu, Wa anta 'allamu l-ghuyub. Allahumma, in kunta ta'lam anna hadha-lamra Khairun li fi dini wa ma'ashi wa'aqibati `Amri (or 'ajili `Amri wa'ajilihi) Faqdirhu wa yas-sirhu li thumma barik li Fihi, Wa in kunta ta'lamu anna hadha-lamra shar-run li fi dini wa ma'ashi wa'aqibati `Amri (or fi'ajili `Amri wa ajilihi) Fasrifhu anni was-rifni anhu. Waqdir li al-khaira haithu kana Thumma ardini bihi.' (O Allah! I ask guidance from Your knowledge, And Power from Your Might and I ask for Your great blessings. You are capable and I am not. You know and I do not and You know the unseen. O Allah! If You know that this job is good for my religion and my subsistence and in my Hereafter--(or said: If it is better for my present and later needs)--Then You ordain it for me and make it easy for me to get, And then bless me in it, and if You know that this job is harmful to me In my religion and subsistence and in the Hereafter--(or said: If it is worse for my present and later needs)--Then keep it away from me and let me be away from it. And ordain for me whatever is good for me, And make me satisfied with it). The Prophet (ﷺ) added that then the person should name (mention) his need.

3. Consult with each other:

Another thing to do about a wedding is to consult with a person who is well acquainted with the bride and her groom family. It is a Sunnah to be consult or this important task. Rasullah (P.B.U.H) used to consult with the comparators about all matter.

4. See the bride:

If possible before Akad it is better to see the bride for the groom. But before that, both parties should have to understand all the sides and it is desirable to choice the groom through women. Because after seeing the bride, the marriage does not happen she feels embarrassed. So it is necessary to see if all other aspects are preferred. It is possible to see a woman is some other way than is official form then it is best to do so.

Need to say, after everything has been finalized, if you see a woman before AKAD, then the interest will increase on one hand on the other hand it may be addressed Earline if you get undesired. According to Hazrat Jabir bin Abdullah (RA) Rasulluah (PBUH) said “If one of you proposes to marry a woman, then if she is able to see the beauty of that woman, which attracts him and enters her to marry her, then let him look at him.”  (Sunne Kubra, Baihaki Hadis no.13869)

Similarly in another Hadith it has been rarrated from Abu Hurairah (RA) he said “I was with the Messenger of Allah (PBUH). Meanwhile, a person came to him and said that he is marrying an Ansari girl. Then the Prophet (PBUH) asked him, did you see him? The person said, no. Then the Prophet (PBUH) said, go and look at him. Because the Ansari has something in the eyes” [Sohi Muslim Hadis-355]

Imam Nawawi (RA) said, from this hadithe, it is known that Mustahab is seen to whom he is coiling to marry.

5. Don’t Exchange Photos:

Photo exchange is not legal for any of the men and women before the occasion of marriage. Because firstly in such cases the Islamic law does not have the right to use pictures in the eyes of the Shariah Secondly, there is the possibility of viewing this photo to others. They are not allowed to see it. Then it will be the sin of Zina. The picture never holds the full truth. It is often seen that after seeing someone is the picture in reality. It seems like he is someone very different. In that case, any untoward situation may arise. Fourthly, it may be that proposal is withdrawn on reject, but the picture remains there. In this situation is not unusual to create an unwanted situation.

6. Before the wedding, the bride does not go anywhere near the bride or stand alone:

It is not permissible for women to sit alone on to travel anywhere with her before marriage. Because, he is still is the limelight. So free movement with them will not be valid. But the matter of remorse is that today many Muslim parents leave their daughter unbridled. As a result, girls are out to negotiate with each other. It is completely irresponsible and unlawful work.

7. Before The Wedding The Boy and Girl will not do any kind of mutual conversation :

It is not permissible to exchange sweet conversations with a proposed girl. Because until the marriage, they are each other gaira mahram. So, talking to each or talking them will be the act of disobedience and sir, likewise interpersonal relationship between phone and mobile phone or through a letter or mobile is valid.

8. Suggestions on some body’s offer:

It is not possible to offer a marriage proposal to the woman about where the marriage is going on. It has been narrated from Abu Huraira, that Rasullah (PBUH) said –“No one offers a suggestion on the proposal of his brother, unless he marries her or withdraws the proposal.” [Sohi Bhukari Hadis No.5144]   

May parent were once again interacting with multiple parties. This is not valid. Likewise, there are many other principles for marriage, they have to be properly observed. Do not observe Hinduism in the marriage, Follow Sunnat at Tarika as of dowry-free and fair hearted system, do not invite only the chosen rich people, music, banditry, free association of men and women etc.

Thus if a marriage is completed in Sahih tarique it will be blessed and it is sent to a discreet matter, then it destroys the blessing and scarcity of marriage which brings harm to him in this world and in the hereafter.  

Most of the men in the world who are married just for his own pleasure or to enjoy. As a result, the husband can be seen when held up to then been a man before ejaculating and as soon as the emission of semen, then went up do not think she or her full satisfaction. 

As a result, his wife is a kind of injustice. Many critics of Islam that mean there is no value in Islam women's sexual needs and the men have been given the right to unilateral and when the sexual needs of men he will meet and she will be ever ready to meet the demand. According to 223 of Surah Al-Baqarah --- (Your wife are a Corn field for you. Use them as you wish.)

Suddenly, this sentence may seem that if somebody placed before when the man with the sexual desire with his wife being allowed, is that so? 

It is true that Islam has to be careful about the wife of her husband's sexual needs, but husband not violent towards the realization of their demands and similarly husband has ordered look after wife’s sexual need. 

Islam said, if husband call for sexual needs in wife cooking position, wife must responds, on the other hand the man said behaves well with his wife. If you do not like your woman, you cannot be a full faith or good man. Knowing this, for sexual needs no man ever call her any time without any notice to the benefit of his wife? Islam warned man about this that to meet the sexual needs of his own let not forget the words of his wife's sexual needs. 

So do not just think about your own needs take care of your wife's full satisfaction.

The only answer is, NO. Islam does not allow any illicit relationship, boyfriend-girl friend relationship between a boy and a girl. Having a girlfriend or a boyfriend, or any type of relationship before marriage is not allowed. It is Haram. 

Before marriage relationship, dating, in its modern sense, almost always involves the channeling of sexual Just for the opposite sex by caressing, kissing, or even having sex. These things are strictly forbidden in Islam before marriage. If it is love between a boy and a girl, the emotion itself is not the subject of questioning on the Day of Judgment. 

If you feel you love someone, then you cannot control your feeling. If that love prompts you to try to see that person in secret and to give expression to your feelings in actions permissible only within the bond of marriage then what you are doing is forbidden. Relation & dating is just about meeting a special someone and that meeting may or may not result in marriage. With Muslim Relation & dating, the meetings have one goal: marriage. Thus, for Muslim Relation & dating to be halal, both partners have to date with the sole goal of marriage.

Islam teaches us to be truthful and realistic. Usually, we love for the sake of Allah and we hate for the sake of Allah. Islam teaches us that a male and female can build up a good relationship founded on marriage. Marriages that are usually good and lasting marriages are those that start at the least affection. That affection grows after marriage and maybe it will grow until the couples continue their companionship at the Jannah.

What's and Why So Bad About Relationship before marriage? Young Girls and boys must realize that fornication (sex outside marriage) is one of the worst sins for a Muslim. The Prophet of Allah has said "The greatest sin after polytheism (shirk) is the man who commits fornication with a woman who is not his legal wife" (Ibn Kathir, Mishkat). 

In fact it is so serious that the greatest of gifts, which is Imaan/faith, is removed from the fornicator until the evil act is finished. The Prophet of Allah said "Faith comes out of a person whilst he commits fornication" (Mishkat). It has also been stated in another hadith related by Imam Tirmidhi, 

Abu Dawood and Baihaqi that the Messenger of Allah said “When a servant in Allah engages in fornication, his faith leaves him, for it is like a piece of cloth covering his head (and is removed) and when he finishes his sin, his faith returns”. 

Another point to take in to account is when young men and women look for a suitable partner, even if they were themselves involved in such acts, they will want a partner who was pious and had protected their chastity, hence, modesty and Shamefulness is a part of Imaan as advised to us by our beloved Prophet.(Bukhari)

To conclude: -

Mixing freely with the opposite sex (non-mahram) without necessity is not allowed in Islam. Having a boy/girlfriend is totally haram. We need to understand what relationships are allowed and what are not.  

It is very clear that Quran forbids intercourse between man and woman before marriage. In Quran Allah says: مَن لَّمْ يَسْتَطِعْ مِنكُمْ طَوْلًا أَن يَنكِحَ الْمُحْصَنَاتِ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ فَمِن مَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُم مِّن فَتَيَاتِكُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ۚ وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَانِكُم ۚ بَعْضُكُم مِّن بَعْضٍ

 ۚ فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ ۚ فَإِذَا أُحْصِنَّ فَإِنْ أَتَيْنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ فَعَلَيْهِنَّ نِصْفُ مَا عَلَى الْمُحْصَنَاتِ مِنَ الْعَذَابِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِيَ الْعَنَتَ مِنكُمْ ۚ وَأَن تَصْبِرُوا خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

And whoever among you cannot [find] the means to marry free, believing women, then [he may marry] from those whom your right hands possess of believing slave girls. 

And Allah is most knowing about your faith. You [believers] are of one another. So marry them with the permission of their people and give them their due compensation according to what is acceptable. [They should be] chaste, neither [of] those who commit unlawful intercourse randomly nor those who take [secret] lovers. But once they are sheltered in marriage, if they should commit adultery, then for them is half the punishment for free [unmarried] women. This [allowance] is for him among you who fears sin, but to be patient is better for you. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. [An-Nisa: 25]

Moreover,  if you've accepted that "you must lower your gaze", then you should know that it's almost impossible to have such a relationship with a girl.